05.Sep.2010 Taking Sex and Intimacy For Granted?

We often take our partners for granted sexually. When married we live with the assumption that we can have sex when ever we like but when a person faces divorce or the death of a partner, abstinence is one of the most difficult things with which to deal.

Make Sex A Priority

Sex in marriage is an area on which we should continually work. If we work on the sexual side of our relationship then it can become fun, even when we are tired or simply just don’t feel like participating. Sex is not always a priority to us and so as anything else in life, it’s up to each of us to keep it novel. To not let tiredness or emotion be a determinant in the sexual part of marriage is important.

Emotionally Led?

Marriages cannot afford to rely on emotion. Rather we need to decide to have great marriages and therefore as a couple, act on this decision. If always too tired to participate sexually, then make some lifestyle changes. Often regarding sex, it’s simply making the decision to just do it.

Gender Differences

Guys are ready at any time for sex and we wives need to be aware of this. Its pointless to tell a partner to not look elsewhere but withhold ourselves sexually from them. Understanding that each gender is different to the other is invaluable. To not think that the other is dirty or wrong is important.

Girls we need to not judge sex according to our viewpoints but we should understand that guys are just different to we girls. We need to decide to be confident about our bodies and not dwell on our shortcomings. We tend to run past a mirror after a shower as we don’t want to see our imperfections. Rather our guys love us to be confident about our bodies. They chose us and when we question our imperfections it frustrates them. Men do not see the imperfections so much as a woman that they desire.

A man does love a woman to take care of her physical appearance and to maintain herself. But we girls need to be confident and accentuate our greatest assets. Meanwhile men need to understand that a woman will age and have a need to be told that she is beautiful and still sexy to him.

Sexually, girls get adventurous with your man. Change your mind and allow no excuses regarding your thoughts and habits. Sex is not dirty and needs to be a commitment in your world. Your man is not weird or dirty in his thought life.

Guys do and say things that win her from morning till evening. She needs to feel secure and beautiful in your love. Sex is not instantaneous to her but she is won into this part of the relationship by your devotion to her.

Age happens but exercise, diet and lifestyle are things that we can all maintain and examine in our lives. These things are important to both the sexes when regarding one another.

Freedom in Intimacy

Freedom means that as a couple we can stand naked in front of each other and be comfortable, laugh and smile. Freedom means that we can tell each other our likes and dislikes but consider each others comfort and desire. Freedom means that we understand that sex gives to the other, involves trust and involves intimacy at a very deep level.