We do all that we can to attract and win the person of our desires when we are dating and even through the engagement period. In marriage though, we suddenly forget that the battle for commitment is only just beginning. We neglect the things that made us attractive to our special someone in the first place. For instance, we may have learned to love a sport he likes or a show she watches, but then, once the marriage vows were made, we tossed that shared activity to the wayside thinking it did not matter anymore.
Romancing our spouses is crucial to keeping a marriage strong. If we fail to meet the needs we were meeting in dating and engagement, the discontentment that may lead us down the thought-road of adultery begins.
Therefore think over the activities and actions that won your partner to you. Keep those things alive in your marriage. Watch for their reaction and if it’s positive, keep this cycle going.
Philippians 2:4 “Let us look not only to our own interests but to the interests of others also.”
When in an argument, I come back to the thought that it’s better to win the relationship than win the argument. To achieve both is fantastic but a rarity.
To enforce an opinion may cost the relationship. We may win the fight but then have caused a rift with another that is never healed.
Therefore consider. In any given conflict, what is the objective beyond the situation? To win the particular situation or to maintain the relationship? Sometimes in losing an argument, we learn by allowing the other, their way.
Marriage needs to be fought for; that is why commitment in a relationship is so important.
Commitment means that we choose to resist the temptations that are present all around us. We choose every day to stand by our marriage, “for better or for worse.”
Paul in 2 Timothy 2:22 instructs us to flee youthful lusts. No matter our age, married or single, desire for others is real. It does not disappear just because we are having sex on a regular basis.
Sexual desire might diminish over the years, but the mind can stay active.
2 Corinthians teaches us to choose our thoughts carefully. Do we indulge in our fantasies or do we dwell on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, excellent, or praiseworthy as stated in Philippians 4:8?
If married, decide daily to walk away from situations that could damage the marriage. Take the steps to not take a spouse for granted, and make the enhancement of married life the main goal. (Excerpt from God Sex book)
There is an outcry in the homosexual community to allow same-sex couples to marry. Few statistics though show that homosexual couples are happy in long-term relationships.
Rob Bell, who is a Christian pastor, speaker and author, speaks for gay marriage. He says that the old way of doing things no longer works. He is perhaps referring to a Christian’s literal adherence to Scripture. His view is puzzling as it denies the origin of the term marriage. His statement implies that those who oppose homosexual marriage should show grace and compassion; however, these virtues go both ways.
In an interview with an ABC news reporter, well known conservative radio host Rush Limbaugh notes that marriage was not established on the basis of discrimination. It wasn’t established on the basis of denying people anything. No one sensible is against giving homosexuals the rights of contract or inheritance or hospital visits. There’s nobody that wants to deny them that. The issue has always been denying them a status that they can’t have, by definition.
By definition, same-sex people cannot be married. So instead of maintaining that and holding fast to that, we allowed the argument to be made that the definition needed to change, on the basis that we’re dealing with something discriminatory, bigoted, and all of these mystical things that it’s not and never has been.
Doug Mainwaring, co-founder of the National Capital Tea Party Patriots and himself an openly professed homosexual, adds to Limbaugh’s argument when he notes that in misguided efforts to expand our freedom, selfish adults have systematically dismantled that which is most precious to children as they grow and develop.
Same-sex marriage will not expand rights and freedoms in our nation. It will not redefine marriage. It will undefine it.
This isn’t the first time our society has undefined marriage. No-fault divorce, instituted all across our country, sounded like a good idea at the time. Its unintended consequence was that it changed forever the definition of marriage from a permanent relationship between spouses to a temporary one.
Marriage is not simply the legal joining of two lives. God made marriage into more than just an “Ok, you can share life and have sex, enjoy” agreement. Marriage originates in the Bible and thus should not simply be redefined on a whim. It is unwise to think that one may be more humane than God.
Marriage is meant to be a true partnership of body, soul, and spirit and can only become so when we submit to God’s ways.