Category: Marriage Goals

30.Apr.2013 |

God Made Each Different

Excerpt from God Sex book:

Girls have been taught that modesty is a thing of the past: that they need to be independent and free of the need for a man. Funnily, the deepest desire of a girl’s heart is to be cared for and accepted by a man, but they are encouraged to not need care.

The identity of men as men is also confused in the midst of current opinions. Most young men are clueless as to how to be around a woman. They are ignorant because they have not been taught how to treat a woman. Most young men are told that women do not desire chivalry.

Both sexes are confused regarding the true needs of the other sex. Both sexes are probably too, embarrassed to express their heartfelt wants when it comes to chivalry. The reality is that God created men and women differently as two separate genders and each bring fulfillment to the other. When each accepts the God-given differences of the other sex and not just the sexual differences, relationships become much more satisfying.

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13.Feb.2013 |

Feel Goods and Pain

Society thinks that scripture is irrelevant and limiting in today’s world. Our natural reaction is to fight against boundaries, especially when we face pain or feel our individual freedom of choice is being threatened.

We all have times when we want to throw out verses that appear to limit our lives.

We tend to look for immediate gratification. Living a life determined for long term, rather than short term happiness though, carries a greater surety for success.

A person who is willing to live a life curbing one’s desire for immediate gratification will find greater freedom.

Therefore when we have options, look ahead in life and consider the result. Is my action a short term feel good that will damage me for a longer term?

A little restraint not only feels great but often sets us up for success.

(Isaiah 40:8 & 1 Peter 1:25)

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20.Nov.2012 |

Is He/She the One?

Do you like to worship the same way? (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Do you share moral and ethical standards? (Mark 7:20-23, 1 Corinthians 15:33)
Do you enjoy his/her company? (Luke 6:31, Ephesians 4:29-32)
Could his/her ambitions and wants work with yours?(Proverbs 29:18, Ephesians 5:21)
Can you respect his/her family? They are a part of the marriage deal. (Ephesians 6:2)
If habits/beliefs never changed, would you still make a life commitment in marriage to him/her? (Malachi 2:16)

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31.Oct.2012 |

Quick Tips on Parenting

Make Decisions for the Future
We should see a future for our children rather than parenting only by the moment. Each day we should be parenting according to the great things that we see for our kids’ futures rather than what suits us at the time. Proverbs 31 says that the wife “laughs at the future.” Each day she works and loves her family with confidence knowing that she is building a great future for them and herself.

Parents Need Guidance Too
The primary spiritual influence in a child’s world is the parent. Everything else they learn is laid atop the parents’ foundation. We will see the good and bad of ourselves reflected in them and magnified a thousand times. There will be times of great joy and of great sadness. That is why I emphasize that parents stay open to correction and direction. I emphasize that at times we will need pastoral or professional counseling, and it is vital that this guidance comes from committed Christians. Too often I see families end up in more of a mess because their shame caused them to seek help from outside the church. Due to poor spiritual guidance the family ended up in more of a shamble.

The overriding thought here is to have a vision for your family. Look around yourselves, take note of where you currently are and map out a future from there. As the parent you are the foundation for your child. Don’t let current circumstances hold you back from dreaming.

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24.Oct.2012 |

Making Sense of Finances

Fear and Money
Financial pressure is one of the greatest reasons for marriage breakdown today. We each have a financial mindset and bring past financial commitments into the marriage. Our financial mindsets can be very different from our spouse’s. For example, you may never have experienced financial hardship but your partner may have battled this since childhood. Or, perhaps you are someone that constantly fears not having enough money to pay the bills.

Money isn’t Evil
Since money is an essential part of living, it is important that financial adjustments are made by both partners in a marriage. However, these adjustments have to be made in agreement. It is important to realize that God’s plan for abundance includes the financial realm. Many people fear money and believe it to be evil, this is not true. The mistake we make with money is relying on it to bring us happiness and security rather than relying on God.

In God we Trust
Strive to keep communication open about your finances with your spouse. Be honest about your fears, preferences, and ideas. Leave room for God in your budgeting and planning. Allow Him to be your provider, rather than your spouse, or your job, or your lottery ticket!

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