Love can be expressed through sex but love is not made by sex. The term of “making love” adds to the confusion between sex and love and should be used carefully. In fact, the pursuit of the act of sex often brings the growth of a relationship to a halt.
Love grows between two people as they seek to know the other in their entirety.
In many undeveloped relationships, one says to the other, “I love you.” The truth is often that one’s hormones are raging and words are being spoken that will hopefully entice the other to give sex! This is not love nor is it making love.
The act of sex in this situation is a physical release that if most were honest with themselves, is disappointing.
Sex apart from love is a let down. It can be bought, bargained for and sold. It thinks only of one’s own immediate needs.
Love is given.
And so when we allow love to rule, we choose to think of the other. What is good, helpful, the other’s opinion, feelings, what is best for them now and for the future. A relationship built in this way is not disappointing and lasts a lifetime.