Most of us know what the Bible states about sex – between a man and a woman in marriage. That means that God would love singles to abstain. That’s tough but after all, there’s not many occasions when he says ‘no’ to certain things.
Casual sex or any sex outside of marriage can seem a good idea but the problem is that often one of the two in the relationship gets more attached than the other. This leads to heartbreak. Sex provides a powerful connection and is more than just physical.
No sex until marriage is better. Once that part of life is awakened it’s really difficult to stop.
I’ve often heard singles ask for accountability concerning sex and relationships. Accountability is fantastic but it does rely on our willingness to not only be totally honest with ourselves and others but also our willingness to hear the answer ‘no” and to implement guidance into our lives. In other words, we can only be as accountable as each of us will allow.
Accountability starts with being honest with ourselves. Accountability means that we will discipline ourselves.
Set your boundaries and voice them to surrounding friends who can see your life. Those not in your daily life can not help you with accountability.
Look long term for your life and therefore decide to behave according to what you want for your life.
Invest time with those that will help you make wise decisions regarding relationships. LEARN to hear their advice. For example, if your friends don’t like one that you’re dating, there’s often good reason.
It’s a great idea to live near great friends. Location rather than isolation provides better accountability.
Have a physical outlet – gym, sport, etc.
Discipline yourself now for your future. There’s not an easy solution and yet discipline is a key quality that serves each of us well.