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31.Oct.2012 |

Quick Tips on Parenting

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Make Decisions for the Future
We should see a future for our children rather than parenting only by the moment. Each day we should be parenting according to the great things that we see for our kids’ futures rather than what suits us at the time. Proverbs 31 says that the wife “laughs at the future.” Each day she works and loves her family with confidence knowing that she is building a great future for them and herself.

Parents Need Guidance Too
The primary spiritual influence in a child’s world is the parent. Everything else they learn is laid atop the parents’ foundation. We will see the good and bad of ourselves reflected in them and magnified a thousand times. There will be times of great joy and of great sadness. That is why I emphasize that parents stay open to correction and direction. I emphasize that at times we will need pastoral or professional counseling, and it is vital that this guidance comes from committed Christians. Too often I see families end up in more of a mess because their shame caused them to seek help from outside the church. Due to poor spiritual guidance the family ended up in more of a shamble.

The overriding thought here is to have a vision for your family. Look around yourselves, take note of where you currently are and map out a future from there. As the parent you are the foundation for your child. Don’t let current circumstances hold you back from dreaming.

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17.Oct.2012 |

Keys to Communication

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It’s said that 75% of what we communicate orally is ignored or forgotten, yet one of the most important ingredients in a marraige is the ability to communicate! Misunderstandings occur because we think we know what our partners are saying, but we are really missing the point because of our own filters and barriers.

Communication is the process of sharing yourself, verbally and non-verbally, in a way that helps the other person accept and understand you. It’s critically important to listen to your partner, make time to hear them and create an environment in which you can listen without distraction. Sit down, go to a cafe or take a walk.

In a good relationship, the man and woman both realize that there is unity in love but each of them are free to have their own opinions. Remember this verse in all your relationships, James 1:19 “Let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.”

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22.Aug.2012 |

Differences in Raising Children

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Balancing Social Personalities and Reclusive Personalities

Dean and I do believe in a social balance for each child. While some socialize easily others find social interaction very difficult. Some children will say that they do not need social interaction, but we believe this to be untrue. Social skills are important in both family and work environments, as well as for personal development. Adam needed a relationship with Eve apart from God. Jacob longed to reunite with Esau after years of separation. We were created to share our lives and none of us find success without interacting with others. Therefore, we encourage parents to help less social children to build friendships rather than allowing them to spend hours on end alone.

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08.Aug.2012 |

The Constant is Change

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Change within Family
Families change in some way everyday. Each day, the kids grow older. Each day they discover something new. Each day we learn something new about parenting, and hopefully become a little more flexible than we were the day before.

Change within Marriage
In a marriage, change is a constant. Each partner needs to make changes according to what the marriage needs, rather than simply carrying out habits and opinions from their pre-marriage lives. Our marriage is unique and we need to make it our own. Ideally, we should use the Bible as the primary source of influence to grow and strengthen our marriage.

Compromise is Key
We have to set realistic expectations on our spouses and ourselves, and be willing to put ourselves out sometimes to help each other get through tough times. We have to be willing to do things that we have not attempted before. Starting a family means starting a life of constant adaptation and change.

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27.Jun.2012 |

An Unsatisfied King

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“Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.”
Ecclesiastes 9:9

In this verse the author writes about monotonous days. It’s a rare thing these days to hear a believer talk openly and honestly about monotony in life. And yet here a king who had so much expresses his heart. He faced boredom in life despite his position, wealth and many wives.

Solomon had it all but found fulfilment only through God.

He shows that life is good if we stay devoted to certain things, primarily our relationship with God. We can invest much in financial matters, sport or a friendship but these things, although worthwhile, will not bring total satisfaction. Our primary investment is God. All else stems from this.

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