It’s not unusual to experience sexual thoughts and fantasies, even for the same sex, in our growing years. This disgusts some but hear me out. In these years, we are forming our preferences for the future.

Our bodies, minds and emotions are changing. We experience bizarre thoughts. For the young person, the adolescent and teen years are uncertain and even embarrassing.

Past experience, background and environment, education and knowledge all impact our children, even sexually. Inappropriate physical touch can affect a child’s preferences. Living in an environment that allows promiscuity or homosexual behavior can affect a child. The emotionally distant parent can cause a child to long for wrong sexual connections. There are many reasons for which a child questions sexuality. The changes for the growing child are not just sexual but highlight a desire for attachment and belonging.

The Bible is the Bible and the source from which we as parents should bring truth to our children. We don’t quote Scripture or demand but we live lives in their presence that inspire them for their futures. We look at our own struggles as we grew up and therefore have grace for others. Even if our own marriage is struggling, we can still display love and guidance for our children.

The affirmation and physical affection from parents is powerful. No one can love a child like a mom or dad on this earth.

If a solo parent, organize regular contact for your child with great role models of the opposite sex. Know that your love for your child is powerful.

Not understood often is that God’s view of sexuality is not limited by choice of hobbies, occupations or cultural preferences. Take care with your words and understand the trends and times in which we live.

Our role as parents is to love and guide our children. Diffuse tension in conversations by hearing their thoughts. Help them know that their struggles are normal and that they have the ability to make right choices.

Our desire as humans to be loved and touched is strong and so as parents, commit to these things through words and actions. Don’t withdraw hugs and touch because your child’s body is changing but be sensitive to his and her needs.