Posts Tagged ‘Parenting’

04.May.2013 |

Promiscuity and Sexual Conquests taken from God Sex Book

Society already puts pressure on people to be sexually active.

Promiscuity is similar to addiction. We search for that sense of feeling good and crave to be loved and accepted. It is built into our very being to want to be loved, and that desire can be enhanced in those who had minimal parenting.

Young girls especially will fall prey to the thought that being desired sexually is the same as being loved, because someone wants and desires them. The chase and perhaps the sexual climax act as highs. The low emotions occur when the sex is done and they face the consequence of the lonely feelings.

The pressure of promiscuity falls heavily on men. It is a sort of badge of honor, men are told, to have multiple “conquests” in their sexual history.

Multiple sex partners are supposed to be the mark of a true man; however, this sense of manhood is shallow and false. Men who live a promiscuous life pretend to be real men without having to commit to any one relationship. Some men take great pride in their sexual conquests when, in fact, they are running from commitment to one woman. They fear that they don’t have what it takes to lay down their life for another.

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20.Dec.2012 |

Gifts, Money and Children????

I love buying for my children, even now that they are adults.

Christmas time finds us spending more. It’s a season of giving. Giving and thankfulness though should continue all year. Therefore, how do we deal with the pressure of giving at Xmas?

1. Much of our spending is connected to our emotional wants and pleasing others. The feel good at the store leads to a feel bad when the bills come.

Think ahead. Will you have the resources to cover expenses incurred at Xmas?

2. Our children do not need all the wants on their Xmas list. Work out what you can afford and acquire these for Xmas.

Other wants can be talked through with the child. The child could save or work toward this desired gift. They can save their allowance towards it. This achievement makes the gift more worthwhile.

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27.Nov.2012 |

It’s My Body. It’s My Right

Its’s my body. It’s my right. We hear this statement when one wants to abort a pregnancy due to a malformation found in the fetus.

How does one determine though if a life is worth living?

In Psalm 139 we find that God determines that each is “beautifully and wonderfully made.” Therefore at times, I’ve found that my view of perfection and handicap needs adjustment.

In Genesis 1:27, it is written that each is made in the image of God. We are image bearers of God despite handicap or deformity.

Paul informs us that our body is “the temple of the Holy Spirit” in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. This places an onus on each of us to therefore honor our body and that of others in our choices.

Christopher Nolan was born with cerebral palsy. His movement was limited to his head and eyes and yet he became a renowned author. Nick Vujicic was born with no arms or legs. He travels the world describing his story of God’s love despite his physical state.

Their parents would have faced extreme hardship in the raising of these handicapped individuals. They saw great fruit for their sacrifice.

My thoughts? People bear the image of God no matter our opinion of worth, no matter the inconvenience.

An unborn fetus no doubt would cry out the statement, “Its my body, it’s my right,” if given a voice from within the womb.

Our treatment of others is a reflection of our love for God.

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31.Oct.2012 |

Quick Tips on Parenting

Make Decisions for the Future
We should see a future for our children rather than parenting only by the moment. Each day we should be parenting according to the great things that we see for our kids’ futures rather than what suits us at the time. Proverbs 31 says that the wife “laughs at the future.” Each day she works and loves her family with confidence knowing that she is building a great future for them and herself.

Parents Need Guidance Too
The primary spiritual influence in a child’s world is the parent. Everything else they learn is laid atop the parents’ foundation. We will see the good and bad of ourselves reflected in them and magnified a thousand times. There will be times of great joy and of great sadness. That is why I emphasize that parents stay open to correction and direction. I emphasize that at times we will need pastoral or professional counseling, and it is vital that this guidance comes from committed Christians. Too often I see families end up in more of a mess because their shame caused them to seek help from outside the church. Due to poor spiritual guidance the family ended up in more of a shamble.

The overriding thought here is to have a vision for your family. Look around yourselves, take note of where you currently are and map out a future from there. As the parent you are the foundation for your child. Don’t let current circumstances hold you back from dreaming.

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26.May.2012 |

More about Sex

People don’t develop patterns of sexual behavior merely as a result of biological heredity. From life’s first years, every one learns about sex whether directly or indirectly. We are taught much by observing the behaviors of those around us.

Knowledge of “what and how to do it” is acquired. Believe it or not, there are those who do not know what to do in sexual intercourse because they did not know how. On the other hand, there are those that believe “plenty of practice” makes for greater marital sex.

Biblical sex education is needed for each new generation.

Society passes on physical, social and moral standards. Often as parents and as the church we have remained silent on the topic or have allowed our past failures to dictate our message to our children.

Grace is great but why not have a great expectation and hope for our children that will bless them.

Sex education is recognized as standard in school education but it is mainly taught with no moral framework – the how to’s but no “whether or not you should do it.”

As parents and churches, we can be bold in presenting a better and biblical way. We can keep the message fun but relevant to their generation, presenting a standard that promises a great reward worth waiting for.

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