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Addiction series part 3

A common theme in addiction is pain. In regards to the sex addict, he battles feelings of inadequacy and the loss of or lack of purpose. He feels it is impossible to love himself due to the pain living inside of him. These feelings are heightened when around other people. The addict can be socially isolated, awkward, and all too often have very few friends. Often, relationships they may have—whether simple friendships or a marriage—are shallow. The addict fears intimacy, most likely due to the betrayal of intimacy that occurs after sexual abuse. This fear causes him not to allow people to get too close. Sexual addicts hope that sex will create the intimacy they crave and that it will drown out the pain that they feel. That pain and emptiness is what fuels the addiction cycle.

God heals the pain and fills the empty void, rendering addiction powerless. With a mix of God’s healing powers and good Christian counselling, any addict can find freedom from the pain.

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(Excerpt from God Sex)

Sexual love is a part of marriage, but sexual love is a lot more than intercourse and achieving an orgasm. It is lying close to another and being conscious of the other’s body even without intercourse. It is reunion after being apart, tender loving touches, and the random hug during the day. It is holding hands for no apparent reason and sharing memories while creating new thoughts for the future. It is the tentative reaching out with one’s fingers or toes after an argument while there is an ongoing awareness that one belongs to the other. These things are all a part of the sexual relationship that is vastly different from a sexual encounter to gain immediate sexual gratification.

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13.Nov.2013

No Shame

(An excerpt from God Sex)

From the very beginning, sex is blatantly on the scene of human interaction as a great point of motivation. When Adam saw Eve, he called her “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” Adam obviously liked what he saw and he was not just looking at her eyes. They were both unclothed. In Genesis 2:24, it is written, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” This one flesh includes the intimacy of the sexual relationship. In Genesis 2:25, the writer further notes that Adam and Eve were naked with each other but felt no shame.

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24.Oct.2013

Dismantling Lies

(An excerpt from God Sex)

Hiding from society is, in some regards, the cause of many of the issues we struggle with today; however, it is important to turn and face the truth of what is going on in the world around us. Sex is everywhere. That is understood. Telling youth to “just say no” and to “not have sex or else” has long proven futile; however, since we now have a more solid understanding of society’s opinions, we can move forward in the quest to dismantle the lies and embrace the truth, and the best place to find truth is in the one place where it has endured throughout the ages—the Bible.

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01.Oct.2013

Romance In Novels

(An Excerpt from God Sex)

Romance in novels is probably the loudest advocate of the subtle lies about sex. Romance in books promises undying love without commitment, passionate connection without work, and never-ending sex without realistic limitations. Fictional stories like these seem so harmless, and yet they are damaging without understanding relationships. Dramatic portrayals of overemotional and borderline violent relationships can warp our views of not just sex but of normal relationships as well. Lonely women and men read these books and think that that is how relationships work. It sets them up to fail because they cannot find a partner like the demi-god lovers they find in their books. None can compete, thus the hope of a real, loving relationship is squashed due to imagined expectations that cannot be reached no matter how hard we pray. God made men as men and women as women. Romance in novels skews the truth and causes only more heartache. We can read books that contain romance, action, drama, etc., but we must also be conscious of what we allow to creep into our concepts of reality.

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